Just putting this out here in case anyone can help me, though I suspect not.
My wife and I have had a rather neurotic Jack Russell terrier, Gary The Wonder Dog, for the last couple of years — he’s eleven or twelve, but we adopted him because of family stuff, so he was pretty set in his ways when we got him.
He’s a great little dog, with only two real flaws (and one of them can be solved by just never giving him Dentastix). The one that can’t be fixed is that he gets terrified he’s being abandoned when I go to bed every night — he practically has a panic attack more nights than not, and this distresses both of us. (He never gets like that when alone at other times — he’s actually a rather standoffish dog who likes his personal space — just bedtime.)
Now the obvious solution to that would be to let him in the bed with us. But while he’s OK in bed with just Holly, if I try to get into the bed he’ll get incredibly territorial, snarl, snap, and generally make it impossible for anyone to rest.
We can’t put his bed in the bedroom, because then he just jumps onto the bed. Does anyone have a suggestion for any way I can actually go to bed without causing my dog unnecessary distress?