Blogging Light for a little while
I’m planning to travel to Italy on Wednesday to see the Beach Boys, and will have no internet access for the few days I’m over there.
But I say planning because one of the few things that could be more important has come up — my wife’s grandfather, who has been seriously ill for years, looks like he is going to die in the next day or two.
I’ve already booked my wife’s ticket over to the US (where her family live), but depending on how much her family want me there, I may have to cancel my fun trip for one that is much less fun.
That sounds like a very callous way of looking at it, but it’s not. Holly’s grandfather is, outside Holly herself, my favourite member of her family, and I’ve cried quite a bit today thinking of him. But me attending the funeral won’t bring him back, won’t give me any ‘closure’ (funerals only ever make me feel worse, never better), will stress Holly more (she’ll worry about me, I don’t travel well), and would cost a ludicrously huge amount of money at this notice (on top of the ludicrous amount of money we paid for Holly’s ticket). I’m willing to do it anyway if they want me there, though.
Either way, the next week is going to involve some comforting of my distraught wife, and some foreign travel, so don’t expect much from me. If I end up going to the Beach Boys gigs, expect very, very detailed reports at the weekend. If I don’t, don’t.
It’s not easy being you.
Very sorry to hear about this development, Andrew. I can empathize to a great extent how much you want to see the band; but I also understand that family comes first, even if funerals do’t always bring “closure.” I lost my father in March of this year, and although my family and I were immensely saddened by his passing, we took comfort in the fact that he lived to the age of 88, spent comparitively little time in ill health, and pretty much lived his life to the fullest that any human being could. I hope you get to see the gig, but if not…